A Look Can Say So Much

What does the look on your face typically communicate to others? Did you know research has shown that it typically takes less than one second for a person to make a judgment based solely on what they perceive in the facial expressions of the other person? Many conflicts occur in our marriages today because the message projected from the look on our face doesn't align with our intentions. In Matthew 5:37, Jesus tells us that our yes should be yes and no should be no. In other words, what we communicate to each other should be clear and consistent with our countenance.

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Saying "I Love You"


How intentional are you at telling your husband or wife “I Love You” when they or you leave for work each day? Some spouses might believe that’s really not that important, but for Lynne and me, not saying I love you is kind of like leaving our front door unlocked. What’s on the inside of our home is now vulnerable to theft and if left open long enough, someone else will likely come and steal what doesn’t belong to them. John 10:10 states that Satan seeks to kill, steal and destroy.

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Acting Your Way to A Feeling


Have you ever heard, “It’s easier to act your way into a feeling, opposed to feel your way into an action?” Working with couples who are struggling in marriage, I often hear things like I simply don’t feel like extending blessings or serving my spouse according to their love language.” What they are really saying is they feel hurt, frustrated, or possibly disrespected. Therefore, they see no need to act in a way that could possibly lead to more hurt, frustration or disrespect.

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